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"How do I separate my loved one’s old abusive behaviors from those caused by his illness?” It’s a question I often hear from caregivers and one that’s difficult to answer definitively.

The defeat of Roy Moore brings back memories of my arrest in Alabama 52 years ago. It was March, 1965 and there was a nationwide call for college students to descend on Montgomery in support of the civil rights workers marching from Selma.

It is December, 2003 and I just got off the C train at 53rd and 5th, when I see his arms flailing above the thousands of people ascending the stairs. “Ban people not cigarettes,” he yells

Rarely do we think about how our anger hurts ourselves. We hold on to anger as if it was life-sustaining rather than destructive, believing we can throw hot coals without getting burnt.

by Stan Goldberg. Originally published by verywell.com, January 23, 2016 There may come a time when, despite wanting to care for your loved one, it may not be possible. Either you’re physically unable or...

The greatest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness

In this holiday season, we are obsessed with what to give people we love. Few of us think about what we can give ourselves. So here is a suggestion. One that will not cost you anything, other than the anger...

As the Soberanes fire in Carmel, California comes closer to our vacation home, I’m devastated knowing the source of wonderful memories will most likely become a charred monument to quiet weekends, solitude,...

My new book on how to support people living with cancer is published as a hardback by Roman & Littlefield and available from all online book sellers. "Everyone will benefit from his advise"-Jack C....

There are more things that can cause depression as we age. I can’t run as fast or as far as I did ten years ago, my weight only fluctuates upward, I take more time to process information, and I feel under...

Thirteen years ago I received a diagnosis of an aggressive form of prostate cancer, yet I still don’t think of myself as a “survivor.” In fact, when someone attaches the label to me, I feel...

An Exclusive Article by About.com's Caregiving Expert, Stan Goldberg Ph.D. We often associate meditation with Eastern religions or new world cults. But modern science has shown the value of this ancient...

An exclusive about.com article by Stan Goldberg We want to alleviate the emotional and psychological pain of the person for whom we are caring. The mistake many caregivers make is believing “doing more”...

An exclusive About.com caregiving article by Stan Goldberg We view death with the same anathema as the strange uncle who comes uninvited to a family gathering. Just as the uninvited relative makes us...

An exclusive About.com caregiving article by Stan Goldberg I sat with my brother-in-law who lived with a chronic illness and reminded him of the enormous number of people he touched during his life. We both...

The death of Beau Biden resurrected memories of caring for my brother-in-law who had a form of brain cancer called Glioblastoma. My wife, two adult children and I took turns flying across the country to...

  It’s not a good idea to have meaningful discussions, work with heavy machinery, or travel to Europe shortly after chemotherapy. I managed to keep my mouth shut, avoided working with anything...

Stability, as we age, is more important than excitement. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging. In Part II I elaborated on its role in chronic and progressive...

We often underestimate the need for introducing stability in the lives of people living with chronic and progressive illnesses. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging....

I came to an understanding about the need for stability when faced with two financial choices. Regardless what I chose either outcome would be fine, unlike a situation in the past were I was forced to choose...