Complacent? When Living with Cancer No Longer Works Stan Goldberg February 6, 2019 Cancer 22 Comments Until last week, I was one of the millions living with cancer who became complacent about my uninvited guest. That abruptly changed.
The Guardians of Memory (A finalist) Stan Goldberg December 11, 2018 Life, Short Stories 2 Comments Hannah glides through the fog as if an apparition—beautiful and giving as if Jesus himself is pouring her out of a wine bottle. I point my old Leica towards her as she stands in front of a Monterey Pine, its branches bent eastward from years of persistent winds. This will be more than just another picture I’ll add to my collection.
Compassion: A Delusional Concept or a Practical Solution? Stan Goldberg November 12, 2018 Aging, Life 4 Comments Why should you choose to be compassionate to someone who emotionally hurt you? Why not just reinforce those behaviors you approve of and punish those you don’t?
Feeling Helpless? Do Something Positive Instead Stan Goldberg October 30, 2018 Aging, Cancer, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life 2 Comments Helpless? Everyone at one time experiences it due to aging, declining health, shattered relationships, or deteriorating world conditions. The way we confront the feeling shapes our lives. I learned how to deal...
Morality, Bombs, and Trump: A Descent to Alabama, 1965 Stan Goldberg October 24, 2018 Life 2 Comments We are faced with a morality crisis that will structure the values of our country for generations. As a voting rights activist in Montgomery, Alabama in 1965 I watched proud parents hand their children rocks...
The Meaning of Life—Why the Question Makes No Sense Stan Goldberg May 17, 2018 Aging, End of Life, Life The words we use and questions we ask ourselves often shape our lives in ways that can be insightful or hurtful. What is the meaning of life is an example of the latter.
Why Apologies May Not Work Stan Goldberg May 16, 2018 Aging, Life 2 Comments There was a time when apologies were made in person, where you looked someone in the eyes, admitted what you did was wrong, cruel, unintentional, or just stupid, and listened to their reactions, as difficult as they were to hear.
Caregiver Abuse: The Role of Personality and Illness Stan Goldberg December 21, 2017 Caregiving "How do I separate my loved one’s old abusive behaviors from those caused by his illness?” It’s a question I often hear from caregivers and one that’s difficult to answer definitively.
Alabama Euphoria: Why Principals of Change Suggest Restraint Stan Goldberg December 13, 2017 Life 1 Comment The defeat of Roy Moore brings back memories of my arrest in Alabama 52 years ago. It was March, 1965 and there was a nationwide call for college students to descend on Montgomery in support of the civil rights workers marching from Selma.
Three Subway Christmas Carols Stan Goldberg December 9, 2017 Short Stories 4 Comments It is December, 2003 and I just got off the C train at 53rd and 5th, when I see his arms flailing above the thousands of people ascending the stairs. “Ban people not cigarettes,” he yells
Coping With Anger: Why You Should Substitute Forgiveness With Understanding Stan Goldberg March 27, 2017 Caregiving Rarely do we think about how our anger hurts ourselves. We hold on to anger as if it was life-sustaining rather than destructive, believing we can throw hot coals without getting burnt.
14 Questions to Ask Before Selecting a Nursing Home Stan Goldberg February 3, 2017 Caregiving 10 Comments by Stan Goldberg. Originally published by verywell.com, January 23, 2016 There may come a time when, despite wanting to care for your loved one, it may not be possible. Either you’re physically unable or...
Forgiveness: The Best Gift You Can Give To Yourself and Others Stan Goldberg January 31, 2017 Caregiving, Uncategorized 2 Comments The greatest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness
The Best Gift You Can Give Yourself: Forgiveness Stan Goldberg December 22, 2016 Aging, Grieving and Recovery, Life 4 Comments In this holiday season, we are obsessed with what to give people we love. Few of us think about what we can give ourselves. So here is a suggestion. One that will not cost you anything, other than the anger...
Letting Go: When Losses are Inevitable Stan Goldberg July 29, 2016 Grieving and Recovery 15 Comments As the Soberanes fire in Carmel, California comes closer to our vacation home, I’m devastated knowing the source of wonderful memories will most likely become a charred monument to quiet weekends, solitude,...
Loving, Supporting and Caring for the Cancer Patient Stan Goldberg May 19, 2016 Cancer 20 Comments My new book on how to support people living with cancer is published as a hardback by Roman & Littlefield and available from all online book sellers. "Everyone will benefit from his advise"-Jack C....
Depression? Four Simple “Non-Therapy” Strategies to Reduce It Stan Goldberg March 28, 2016 Aging, Alzheimer’s/dementia, Cancer, Caregiving, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life 4 Comments There are more things that can cause depression as we age. I can’t run as fast or as far as I did ten years ago, my weight only fluctuates upward, I take more time to process information, and I feel under...
Living With Cancer: Don’t Call Us Survivors Stan Goldberg February 9, 2016 Cancer, Cancer 12 Comments Thirteen years ago I received a diagnosis of an aggressive form of prostate cancer, yet I still don’t think of myself as a “survivor.” In fact, when someone attaches the label to me, I feel...
Meditation: How to Take the Wobble Out of Our Minds Stan Goldberg September 22, 2015 Caregiving An Exclusive Article by About.com's Caregiving Expert, Stan Goldberg Ph.D. We often associate meditation with Eastern religions or new world cults. But modern science has shown the value of this ancient...
When Less is More: Three Strategies for Preventing Caregiver Stress Stan Goldberg August 24, 2015 Caregiving An exclusive about.com article by Stan Goldberg We want to alleviate the emotional and psychological pain of the person for whom we are caring. The mistake many caregivers make is believing “doing more”...