Compassion: A Delusional Concept or a Practical Solution? Stan Goldberg November 12, 2018 Aging, Life 4 Comments Why should you choose to be compassionate to someone who emotionally hurt you? Why not just reinforce those behaviors you approve of and punish those you don’t?
Feeling Helpless? Do Something Positive Instead Stan Goldberg October 30, 2018 Aging, Cancer, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life 2 Comments Helpless? Everyone at one time experiences it due to aging, declining health, shattered relationships, or deteriorating world conditions. The way we confront the feeling shapes our lives. I learned how to deal...
The Meaning of Life—Why the Question Makes No Sense Stan Goldberg May 17, 2018 Aging, End of Life, Life The words we use and questions we ask ourselves often shape our lives in ways that can be insightful or hurtful. What is the meaning of life is an example of the latter.
Why Apologies May Not Work Stan Goldberg May 16, 2018 Aging, Life 2 Comments There was a time when apologies were made in person, where you looked someone in the eyes, admitted what you did was wrong, cruel, unintentional, or just stupid, and listened to their reactions, as difficult as they were to hear.
The Best Gift You Can Give Yourself: Forgiveness Stan Goldberg December 22, 2016 Aging, Grieving and Recovery, Life 4 Comments In this holiday season, we are obsessed with what to give people we love. Few of us think about what we can give ourselves. So here is a suggestion. One that will not cost you anything, other than the anger...
Depression? Four Simple “Non-Therapy” Strategies to Reduce It Stan Goldberg March 28, 2016 Aging, Alzheimer’s/dementia, Cancer, Caregiving, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life 4 Comments There are more things that can cause depression as we age. I can’t run as fast or as far as I did ten years ago, my weight only fluctuates upward, I take more time to process information, and I feel under...
The Need for Stability: Part III-Five Ways To Introduce It Stan Goldberg May 8, 2015 Aging, Life, Thoughts of the Day 4 Comments Stability, as we age, is more important than excitement. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging. In Part II I elaborated on its role in chronic and progressive...
The Need for Stability: Part II-Its Role in Chronic and Progressive Illnesses Stan Goldberg May 6, 2015 Aging, Chronic illness, Life, Thoughts of the Day We often underestimate the need for introducing stability in the lives of people living with chronic and progressive illnesses. In Part I of this three-part series, I explained the role of stability in aging....
Stability : Part I-Why It’s Critical for Successful Aging Stan Goldberg May 4, 2015 Aging, Chronic illness, Thoughts of the Day 3 Comments I came to an understanding about the need for stability when faced with two financial choices. Regardless what I chose either outcome would be fine, unlike a situation in the past were I was forced to choose...
Why Motivation Alone Stinks: Part I-Difference Between What and How Stan Goldberg April 6, 2015 Aging, Life, Thoughts of the Day Advice gurus flood Saturday morning cable shows with programs on weight loss, exercise, wealth management, and becoming more authentic. By following their instructions we will become the person we deserve to...
Elder Abuse: What They Don’t Show on TV Stan Goldberg January 15, 2015 Aging, Thoughts of the Day Thought of the Day. A number of years ago I witnessed elder abuse as I walked behind a twenty-something-year-old couple in downtown San Francisco. My hearing then--as opposed to now--was acute enough to hear...
Selma: Why I Write About The Sharp Points of Life Stan Goldberg January 6, 2015 Aging, Thoughts of the Day 8 Comments For the past few days trailers about the movie, Selma and criticisms about its historical accuracy flooded the airways. I'll see the movie regardless of the commentaries because I was there. In 1965, I was...
Aging and Sexual Dilutions: “Friending” an Old Man Stan Goldberg December 15, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day This morning on Facebook I had a request from someone almost old enough to be my granddaughter. Looking at the provocative picture, I wondered why someone this young wanted to be a “Friend” of someone who...
You’re Putting Me in A Nursing Facility! Why Can’t You Care For Me At Home? Stan Goldberg December 5, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day THOUGHT OF THE DAY: A few weeks ago Steve Moran published a three-part series in the Sacramento Bee on “the terrible state of affairs” in skilled nursing facilities in California. The response from the...
Values and Adversity: Boomers vs. ME Generation Stan Goldberg November 25, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day At a party the other day I had a conversation with a friend who is my age (69) about our children’s generation and those who came afterward. I’m told the newest is the ME generation. I enjoy my children...
Aging and a Shrinking World Stan Goldberg November 20, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day When friends die death comes closer to us
Confronting Fear Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day 11/06/14 I just spent a week at the John Campbell Folk Art School in North Carolina attending a class on bowl making, despite my fear of the lathe; a turning devise for spinning a five pound block of raw...
Slip-Sliding Into Aging Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day 2 Comments 04/07/14 I recently returned from a fly-fishing trip to the Mt. Shasta area. As I waded the McCloud River I struggled to remain on top of rounded, slippery rocks. After falling the second time, I looked for...
Don’t Yell At The Customer Service Person Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day 06/25/14 I started being annoyed a few years ago at foreign customer service representatives. The only thing accurate about their title was that they were foreign. I felt they were deliberately speaking...
Life Lessons From Roadside Wood Stan Goldberg November 19, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day 06/23/14 A few months ago I began doing wood sculpting. The first few pieces were done from blocks of kiln-dried wood. The desired object was drawn on the wood and I cut out unnecessary pieces. I was...