55 Years and Waiting: Living John Lewis’s Good Trouble Stan Goldberg July 30, 2020 Life 28 Comments As I watched John Lewis’s casket roll over the Edmund Pettus Bridge, I thought of the refrain, “if you can remember the 60’s you really...
9 Ways to Prepare for Gut-Wrenching Coronavirus Losses Stan Goldberg April 4, 2020 End of Life, Grieving and Recovery 10 Comments Officials from the Center for Disease Control (CDC) assert--with absolute certainty--that I and millions of others will experience soul-crushing...
Six Strategies to Reduce Misery Stan Goldberg July 10, 2019 Chronic illness, Grieving and Recovery, Life 4 Comments Everyone wants to be happy. But it might make more sense to sneak up on happiness by reducing misery. Here are six proven strategies you can use today.
Complacent? When Living with Cancer No Longer Works Stan Goldberg February 6, 2019 Cancer 22 Comments Until last week, I was one of the millions living with cancer who became complacent about my uninvited guest. That abruptly changed.
Compassion: A Delusional Concept or a Practical Solution? Stan Goldberg November 12, 2018 Aging, Life 4 Comments Why should you choose to be compassionate to someone who emotionally hurt you? Why not just reinforce those behaviors you approve of and punish those you don’t?
Feeling Helpless? Do Something Positive Instead Stan Goldberg October 30, 2018 Aging, Cancer, Chronic illness, End of Life, Grieving and Recovery, Life 3 Comments Helpless? Everyone at one time experiences it due to aging, declining health, shattered relationships, or deteriorating world conditions. The way we...
The Meaning of Life—Why the Question Makes No Sense Stan Goldberg May 17, 2018 Aging, End of Life, Life The words we use and questions we ask ourselves often shape our lives in ways that can be insightful or hurtful. What is the meaning of life is an example of the latter.
Why Apologies May Not Work Stan Goldberg May 16, 2018 Aging, Life 2 Comments There was a time when apologies were made in person, where you looked someone in the eyes, admitted what you did was wrong, cruel, unintentional, or just stupid, and listened to their reactions, as difficult as they were to hear.
Caregiver Abuse: The Role of Personality and Illness Stan Goldberg December 21, 2017 Caregiving "How do I separate my loved one’s old abusive behaviors from those caused by his illness?” It’s a question I often hear from caregivers and one that’s difficult to answer definitively.
Coping With Anger: Why You Should Substitute Forgiveness With Understanding Stan Goldberg March 27, 2017 Caregiving 1 Comment Rarely do we think about how our anger hurts ourselves. We hold on to anger as if it was life-sustaining rather than destructive, believing we can throw hot coals without getting burnt.
14 Questions to Ask Before Selecting a Nursing Home Stan Goldberg February 3, 2017 Caregiving 12 Comments by Stan Goldberg. Originally published by verywell.com, January 23, 2016 There may come a time when, despite wanting to care for your loved one, it...
Forgiveness: The Best Gift You Can Give To Yourself and Others Stan Goldberg January 31, 2017 Caregiving, Uncategorized 2 Comments The greatest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness
Caregiving, Death and a Strange Uncle Stan Goldberg August 24, 2015 End of Life An exclusive About.com caregiving article by Stan Goldberg We view death with the same anathema as the strange uncle who comes uninvited to a family...
Brain Cancer: Five Suggestions for Compassionate Caregiving Stan Goldberg June 1, 2015 Cancer, Thoughts of the Day The death of Beau Biden resurrected memories of caring for my brother-in-law who had a form of brain cancer called Glioblastoma. My wife, two adult...
Squishy Memories: Part II-Why Does the Mind Change the Past? Stan Goldberg March 25, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the Day In Part I of this series, I wrote our mind’s creation of memories is unreliable since it has a hidden agenda. In Part II I’ll offer reasons why...
Our Internal Insane Thoughts: Part I-What Are They? Stan Goldberg March 9, 2015 Life, Thoughts of the Day 4 Comments How many days has it been since you replayed a scene in your mind where you said hurtful, revealing or politically incorrect words you wish could...
Hospice: What Country Will Provide the Best Services For Your Loved One? Stan Goldberg December 29, 2014 End of Life, Thoughts of the Day THOUGHT OF THE DAY. A few years ago I was the keynote speaker at Calgary Hospice and also conducted a workshop where I presented a unique model for...
Compassion for Those Left Behind: A Holiday Wish For Those Who Are Grieving Stan Goldberg December 23, 2014 Grieving and Recovery, Thoughts of the Day 3 Comments I received a wonderful LinkedIn invitation to connect this morning from the CEO of After A Loss. It is a Canadian service organization I wish...
Living With A Chronic Illness: Creating a Legacy Stan Goldberg December 22, 2014 Chronic illness, Thoughts of the Day Someone living with a chronic illness often can't think past today's pain or discomfort. If they can, their focus may be on wondering when the...
You’re Putting Me in A Nursing Facility! Why Can’t You Care For Me At Home? Stan Goldberg December 5, 2014 Aging, Thoughts of the Day THOUGHT OF THE DAY: A few weeks ago Steve Moran published a three-part series in the Sacramento Bee on “the terrible state of affairs” in skilled...