Becoming Something Different Stan Goldberg June 25, 2010 Grieving and Recovery 2 Comments In Tibetan Buddhism the word “bardo” refers to a transition or a gap between the completion of one situation and the beginning of another. That gap can occur between life and death, ignorance and understanding, or in the case of speech-language pathology, between who we were and what we are becoming.
Dying the Way We Live Stan Goldberg June 13, 2010 End of Life People who were dying in the Middle Ages said their goodbyes, gave away the furniture, and just stopped breathing. The non-event was witnessed by friends and family, who, at the moment of death absconded with anything of value. Later, they might gather to either celebrate or deride the person’s life. Today, although we rarely fight over furniture, we do something worse.
Understanding Chronic and Terminal Illness: A Guide for Healthy People Stan Goldberg May 3, 2010 Chronic illness 6 Comments A client who was dying once said to me, “Every day I feel as if I’m on one of those exercise boards that rest on a ball. Just when I steady the damn thing, it starts moving and I’m struggling again to balance myself. Why don’t people realize that’s what my life has become?”
Prostate Cancer Research Funding and Male Vanity Stan Goldberg March 8, 2010 Cancer 6 Comments As someone who’s living with prostate cancer, I applauded Louis Gossett Jr.’s testimony in Congress on the importance of prostate cancer research funding. If congress was listening, maybe I’ll live long enough for something else to kill me. But according to the American Cancer Society statistics, I shouldn’t hold my breath.
Soul Salon Interview with Rena Reese (audio) Stan Goldberg February 24, 2010 Interviews Soul Salon Rena Reese, Stan discusses issues of life, death and coping with aging February 24,...
The Path to Easy Learning Stan Goldberg February 18, 2010 Travel, Humor, etc. What do you think about when someone says "happiness?" Usually, what comes to mind are things, or outcomes. Happiness can be a four-car garage in the suburbs, a high-paying job, an expensive new car, or a child who becomes a successful professional. We have a tendency to externalize happiness. It becomes something intimately involved in a thing or event. It becomes a goal. Unfortunately, the path to that goal is often ignored.
Patricia Grace-Aging With Grace (audio) Stan Goldberg February 15, 2010 Interviews Aging With Grace Patricia Grace Stan explains how aging can occur gracefully through increased attention and acceptance February 15,...
Dying Stands Logic on its Head Stan Goldberg January 13, 2010 End of Life 2 Comments We often harshly judge behaviors we don't understand. They can involve someone's ingratitude, anger, or actions we label as foolish. I recently was guilty of the same thing here in the San Francisco Bay area with one of my hospice patients.
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-1: Introduction Stan Goldberg December 30, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos 3 Comments Introduction. An introduction to the major themes of the...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-2: Sitting Stan Goldberg December 29, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos 2 Comments Lessons for the Living-2: Sitting. Few people understand the importance of sitting down next to a person who is dying rather than standing at the...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-3: Create a Positive Environment Stan Goldberg December 28, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die:3 Create a Positive Environment. The focus should be on life, even as a loved one's life is slipping...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-4: Simplifying Life Stan Goldberg December 27, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die: 4-Simplifying Life. As a loved one comes closer to dying, interests become more defined. There is much you can do to...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-5: Listen More, Talk Less Stan Goldberg December 26, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die: 5-Listen More, Talk Less. We tend to fill periods of silence with words, almost as if it was a requirement. Yet, it's...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-6: Don’t Rely Just on Words Stan Goldberg December 25, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die: 6-Don't Rely Just on Words. There are many emotions that can't be conveyed to loved ones just by...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-7: Talk About Death Stan Goldberg December 24, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die: 7-Talk About Death. People who are dying usually know it and if given permission to talk about it, will want...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-8: Forgive and Ask For Forgiveness Stan Goldberg December 23, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die:8-Forgive and Ask For Forgiveness. Two things that make dying more difficult is not being forgiven for unskillful acts...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-9: Give Thanks Stan Goldberg December 22, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die: 9-GiveThanks. People who are dying want to know they've made a difference in the lives of their loved ones and...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-10: Private Experiences Stan Goldberg December 21, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die:10-Private Experiences. People close to death may relate visits by loved ones who have died. Whether or not you think...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-11: Giving Permission to Leave Stan Goldberg December 20, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos Helping Our Loved Ones Die:11-Giving Permission to Leave. One of the hardest things you may have to do is give permission to a loved one to...
Helping Our Loved Ones Die-12: Final Thoughts Stan Goldberg December 19, 2009 End of Life, Helping Our Loved Ones Die Videos 2 Comments Helping Our Loved Ones Die:12-Final Thoughts. Some final things to think...
